The secret to a good marriage is a walk-in closet — to argue out of your children's earshot, New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie recounts in his new book, "American Governor,"
the New York Times reports
According to the Times, the Republican governor and presidential contender also reveals he and wife, Mary Pat, went to marriage counseling during "really challenging times," and waited seven years to start a family to ensure they "definitely liked each other."
The book, written by public radio reporter Matt Katz of WNYC, suggests the pugnacious politician "brings much the same approach to his personal life as he does to his public one," the Times reports.
Although Christie doesn't reveal when he and his wife sought out marital counseling, an unnamed sources tells the Times it was early in their marriage. The Christies wed in March 1986 and have four children.
"I don't know what either one of us thought marriage was exactly going to be like, but what was happening was not what we thought," Christie says, the Times reports. "We had some fairly challenging times — really challenging times."
"It's kind of like a demilitarized zone you can go through," he says of marriage counseling, adding that an objective arbiter can call "foul."
Seven years after they married, they started their family.
"Finally, when we felt like we definitely liked each other, then we had kids," he says. "We wanted to be sure, and we didn't want to bring children into a world and a relationship that we didn't think was good and stable."
And though the Christies still fight, they make it a practice to never have it out in front of the children, as Christie's parents did when he was growing up, the Times reports.
Now the governor and his wife "air it out" in a walk-in closet.
"You go to some party with your wife, right?" he recounts, the Times reports. "And this invariably happens to every married couple — something happens at the party, whatever."
"The great moment is when you get into the car and go," and using an expletive adds: "'Are you kidding me?' And you have it out. So by the time you get home, it's washed out."
According to the Times, Christie is then asked if he would do that in front of a New Jersey state trooper assigned as security or driver.
"So what happens is you seethe, you're staring at each other," he explains, the Times reports. "And then we usually go into her closet to fight."
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