The first step in dealing with someone suffering from a personality disorder is to figure out what type of problem a person has.

To help recognize a personality disorder, look for these traits:

• Sometimes idealizes you and other times sees you as the worst person in the world

• Has a distorted sense of self, at times appearing distant, authoritative, or hostile, and rapidly switches to a friendly or warm demeanor

• Becomes panicky when threatened by abandonment

• Sometimes threatens self-mutilation or suicide

• Reacts intensely when feeling ignored

• Constantly feels angry, empty, or paranoid, and has rapid shifts in mood

• Often acts impulsively

People with severe personality disorders can wreak emotional havoc in their relationships.

If a family member or friend displays these traits, it can pose a tremendous challenge. You may feel like you have to tiptoe around your loved one and watch everything you say or do, lest you set them off.

You may be inclined to hide your true feelings in order to avoid arguments. Such people can make you feel like every problem is your fault, when in reality it is not.

You may even feel manipulated by the individual’s intense emotions, which can cause you to become resentful and angry.